By Christina VanGinkel
If your first child will be arriving soon, you may be feeling a bit of trepidation as the moment grows closer and closer, even if you have taken classes, talked to your doctor or midwife, even discussed the birth process with a few friends. Even will all of the preparation you have done, you may have a growing anxiety about the big event, such as how bad will the pain 'really' be, will baby be healthy, and will you do anything embarrassing. The best way to get yourself through these final moments of anxiousness is to talk openly with all those mentioned, and remind yourself of all you will gain from this process, namely a baby.
As to giving birth to a healthy baby, the numbers are in your favor as in no other time during history. More healthy babies are born than not, and of those that are born with conditions, many can be treated with today's modern medicines and surgeries allowing your infant to grow and flourish as if they never had a problem to begin with.
If you are someone who is worried about embarrassment, remind yourself that those people helping you deliver your baby do it for a living. They have seen it all, heard it all, and would not be in the profession if they did not enjoy the awe of each miraculous birth.
The pain factor is what gets to most women. They worry, they wonder, it is never far from their minds. For starters, each woman's pain level is different. What might be considered pain for one could be nothing more than discomfort for the next. If you have a friend or relative who has been spending the entire time of your pregnancy trying to scare you with the details of her particular delivery, look around at all the people you know who have more than one child. If the pain were so horrendous, would they really do it again? I personally delivered three children, and while I would not mark it on my calendar to do each month, the pain was more than tolerable, and I can tell you from personal experience that breathing properly through contractions does help. The 'pain' is your muscles contracting in a very organized fashion to push the baby out, and if you breathe as instructed, your muscles get the oxygen they need. I can also tell you from watching my daughter give birth to my grandson that pain not directly associated with a normal birth can happen, as she experienced back pain from a pinched nerve, and was affected by it before, during, and briefly after delivery. She was upfront with her doctor about it, and as a professional, he dealt with it beautifully.
Being open and upfront with all involved can, and will, go a long way towards making sure, you have as wonderful a delivery as possible. In addition, as I said before, look at what the prize is at the end of all that work!