Friday, September 08, 2006

How Your Baby Is A Mirror Reflection Of You

You felt your child when he or she was inside of the womb, and the two of you grew until the birth. Throughout all of this time, your child was developing their senses, and was learning with you through site and sounds in your voice. Before your child was even born, he or she knew who you were, and relied a lot on the sounds of your voice. That very same voice is what teaches the child self esteem, among many other lessons in life.

From the moment your child is born, they are learning even more, and while they look like they are just laying around a lot, and sleeping a generous portion of the time, they are taking in their surroundings. Right off the bat, what those do around this baby molds them for the rest of their lives.

The first five years of a child's life is the most important time for you to instill skills and moralistic values, because any time over that is apt to be more of a struggle. Your child is a learning vessel, and if you look back on your older child's kidnegarden report card, you will see they still possess the main trait the teacher discusses in the comments area.

The first thing you are teaching your child is love, and we do this in a numerous amount of ways. Your young baby is going to count on your love, to know that they are safe and secure. A safe and secure baby is a happy baby, and a happy baby is more likely to be more advanced in the future. A happy baby is catered to in every way possible, and all needs are met.

We do this through stability, because showing our children that we are there for all of their needs will show them that they will be well taken care of. Your baby is relying on you for that comfort, because he or she is not able to take care of their basic needs themselves. This requires a lot of your attention, is time consuming and offers little sleep over the first year. This can get hard and trying, and is an important reason why it is good to have a support system to help you get caught up on that much needed space, or allow for some private, but quality time for yourself.

One of the main parts of having a baby consist of dealing with moments when you are learning who your child is and what they want. Those first couple of weeks can be a trying time as you are trying to figure out what each different type of cry means. Your child could need a new diaper, be hungry or just plain want to be held. All of these choices that are made are ways to show the child you are there for them, and will help to grow a bond that is long lasting.

Your child will watch your face, and your facial features, along with your voice will be an important part of showing your child stable emotions. Use your time that you are spending with your child to sing to them, tell them stories, or hum to the tune of something you know. Your child will listen attentively, and if you are at a peaceful state of mind, your child will be as well. Your child will learn that this is what you act like on a normal basis, and because your child is going to be a mirror image of you, will soon begin to show that same peaceful state of mind.

Then comes the first day your child shows you the smile of appreciation, and it's going to melt your heart. You will be doing what every parent does, and encourage them to do the best they can, and show them what they are capable of doing, and one day, in return, your child will send to you a smile of appreciation in return. Those are the golden moments that we never forget, and from that moment on, we are consumed with making sure our child has a smile that remains plastered all over their face.

Education should begin early, and as a matter of fact, should begin as soon as your child comes home from the hospital. There are many things you can do that don't cost more than the cost of printing paper and a little ink. You see, when the child is first born, they still need to enhance their eye coordination, but in order for them to see things, they have to be relatively close, and be certain colors. A good thing to do for this is to create simple patterns of bright colors on white background. Stick to red and white, and then make one that also has a black circle in the center of it that is big enough to hone in on. Place these papers around your child's head right from birth.

As your child begins to grow, and even at an early stage, you will catch them really looking at the patterns that are surrounding them. They will notice that one of them has a black circle in it, and will look at that one very closely. This helps their eye skills, and also serves as an educational tool that pretty much took nothing more but a little bit of your time.

Another common toy to begin with, that is usually located in your baby stuff is a baby washcloth. Your baby can easily hold on to something like this, and right from birth I have encouraged each of my children to hold on to them. Because of this, they all started playing with toys at the young age of three months. They learned through my exercise hour, and items like washcloths and pictures that they are capable of using their extremities, and they start using them more and more.

As time goes on, and your bond is growing, you will start to see significant growth in your baby. Your baby will start to play with things, and become more independent, and yet will still rely on you much of the time. They will follow you with their eyes, and watch where you are going next. This is why it is a good idea to put your baby in a spot where many people have to walk past the path every day. This way everyone can stop and give a friendly hi to the baby, and believe it or not, they really appreciate it. It helps keep them from getting bored, helps them adapt to many faces and shows them that they are not forgotten.

Another good way to share with your baby is to carry them in a front or back carrier on a regular basis. As much as often you should take your child for a walk. This is how they take in their surroundings and don't think they can't understand you. Enough times of telling them what a flower is, or a tree is, will help them to recognize that is what you are talking about. They will form a better vocabulary much more quickly if you do this with them. So not only are you sharing quality time with them, this serves as an educational background, and to prepare them for their future, I think education should start at birth.

From early on, I bring my young children around to visit other children of their age. This works out well in showing them that they eventually have to share, and also creates bonds with friends. This is really good, because social interaction also helps them to learn. They watch what the other child is doing, and from that, they can also learn they can do the same thing. This teaches them that they can be even more independent, even if it means sitting across from each other sharing smiles, and waving their rattles.

I can't stress enough that it is never good to share hostile feelings with someone that is around you, and in front of the baby. Especially if they are not accustomed to such behavior, it will scare them, and they will not feel as comfortable. Aside from that, you don't want them to learn that aggression or negative words is a way to conduct yourself when you are angry. Your child will ingest each and every thing that you do, and your actions are a way of revealing how your personality works. You want your personality to work well so that your child will have a personality that works well too.

Always make sure you are using your manners in front of your baby, even if it means that your baby is hearing this as a newborn. As our society is growing, we are constantly being faced with children that do not have the same set of standards as the people who are growing up. This is not done through abusive behavior, this is done by using your manners consistently, and showing the baby at a young age that this is the acceptable way to handle yourself.

Never hit, shake or scream at your baby, because your baby will not trust you after that, and you may find yourself dealing with a very cranky, untrusting child that will also be hurt emotionally, as well as possibly physically. Never, ever show your child that this is a way to handle a frustrating situation, they could grow up abusive and uncaring, and they may not know how to handle themselves in relationships or situations when they are older.

If you feel like this is something you are on the edge of doing, it's time to involve the support person in your life, because not only will you harm the baby, but the reality is you may possibly even lose your child, and in more ways than one.

Never show your child any type of prejudices towards other human beings, because a prejudiced person is someone who is not going to experience all that life has to offer. There is much to be learned by each other, and if we work hard at obtaining this factor in our lives, we can become much more improved as a society. Your child needs to be able to get along with others and not cause harmful affects on the emotions of another child just because they were born of a certain race.

Even as a baby, if you go to a sports game, make sure you use good sportsmanship. After all, this is a game that your child may participate in the future with, and you don't want this child to feel like they can't ever lose. A fact of life is that we lose sometimes, and there is nothing we can do about that. We have to learn how to deal with our losses, and by acting unsportsmanlike, you are teaching your child that it is okay to blame others, instead of supporting them.

As your child is growing, you should make special time to read to them. Many people choose to do this at bedtime, and it really helps to create stability and organization, and also forms a stronger bond, but that's not everything reading does for your child. While your child listens to each word, their imagination is working at full throttle, and the word they just listened to is now sitting in their brains to be recognized when it is used again. This helps to develop their vocabulary.

When you are reading from a book, take the time to point out things in the picture that were talked about. This helps them to identify certain things in life, and also helps them to talk better as they grow. The most advanced child talkers are children who have had a lot of interaction, and have heard a lot of stories. I believe giving them that advanced area in life opens the door up to a lot more education, and therefore helps them to have a lot more confidence in themselves when they reach school age.

Once your child is developing a good vocabulary, make sure you have a scratchpad and pencils or a chalkboard with chalk. Your child will learn a whole lot with these items if you spend just a little time every night with them. If you don't have the time, perhaps you have another school age child around that can play school with your child. This works out wonderful, because with the use of these items the possibilities are endless. Work on the alphabet, shape and numbers, and before you know it, when you test your child for preschool, you will find out they could be as advanced as the end of first grade.

Now you've been very much a good friend in all of this process, and you have taught your children a lot. You will have watched them grow by leaps and bounds, but there is bound to be a stage where your child is going to start testing you, and at that point you are going to have to start using reprimands. Make sure you use reprimands that you can stick with.

At a very young age, they may not fully understand you, and you'll be issuing a lot of the word no. Do this is a calm fashion, move your finger back and fourth, and never let them go back to doing what they are doing. You may have to interfere in the process several times in the beginning, but over time, your child will learn the valuable lesson of following directions.

It's important that you stick to the directions, and set yourself a time schedule. Routines are very important for each child, and whether or not anyone likes to admit it or not, children do count and rely on you to have rules. These rules keep things comfortable, keep the child out of trouble, keep them from getting hurt and shows them how to have respect.

If you keep giving in on a rule, and don't follow through with the affects of what the child has done, or could do, they will never learn what consequences are. Consequences are important parts of life to learn about, because our whole life is filled with nothing but rules. They have to be able to count on the fact that what you say is true, and then they will accept the punishment for what they have done. This is important, because some time in life, we will all have to deal with a consequence of our action, and we have to learn that we can't run from it, or that no one is going to be easy on us because we think the world owes it to us.

But with every criticism that you will ever hand out, make sure you are also willing to give a compliment. This will show them that even when they do something wrong, they are still special people, but they still have to deal with the consequences of their actions. This is important, because without this compliment that gets handed out, the child starts to question if they are still loved. You want them to always know they are loved, and that they can always rely on you, and it never hurts to help someone's esteem, even in a wrong decision.

Be open minded with your children, and keep tabs on them and their friends as they are growing up. This can help you to find out what they are up to in their spare time, and can help you to guide them through tough and trying times as they get into the adolescent area. Always make sure you are giving them the chance to voice their opinion, because you can give them valuable information in the future that can save the situation.

Basically, no matter what we have to do, we have to always make sure they feel good about themselves. Help them to be independent, and fill them with education. Show them that the world is their limit, because they are our future. They are our hopes and our dreams when we get to the next generation, and if we teach them right, it will be a fine world to live in.

Good times and frustrations are all parts of growing up, and when we make the big step towards showing them fulfillment, they learn the structures of life. They go off to school with a pleasant feeling on life, and end up conquering fears and hardships when they grow up. All of the images that you have planted in their minds are the very things they will use, and it starts with you. You are the first, biggest and best example that is out there.

You are the person who can help them to achieve their dreams, goals and desires. You are also the person that can teach them to feel like failures, worthless and want for nothing. You want to be the path that helps them find a rich life with their family, and believe me, they will instill your virtues and ideas on their children. Be creative with their life, and they will learn to create. Be encouraging, and they will know they have the power. Be honest, and they will be honest to others. The simplest of life virtues is what makes a man, a man, and a woman, a woman.

Even if you grew up in the roughest of environments, you can have a more fulfilling existence if you break the chains and teach your children what you wish your parents would of taught you. Be an active part of your child's life, and show them you are there for ever. Make sure their mind is ever turning, and that they understand that life is always changing. Show them the encouraging life that every person on life should be a part of. Focus on the good, and work through the bad, and you will find out that child rearing is the most rewarding experience of life.

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