Sometimes in the hustle and bustle of day-to-day life we forget that everyone needs a dose of inspiration from time to time. Mothers in particular need that little pick-me-up and that is not something that can be saved for Mother's Day. Instead we need to feel inspired all of the time, in order to move forward in a productive and joyful manner in our lives. Over the years I've managed to compile my own unique list of tips to help inspire and propel myself onto greater heights. Mothers I hope you too will find them to be beneficial to your everyday life.
Here are five of my top tips for inspirational living for mothers; however anyone, both male and female, can benefit from these proactive suggestions. Let's get started with...
1. Don't live your life looking in the rearview mirror.
I abandoned this way of thinking a long time ago because it is a defeatist's way of viewing life. As I was nearing the age of thirty I remained unmarried and my career was temporarily on stall mode. I was incredibly discouraged and I began to spend my time thinking about how much better my life was when I was younger and thinner, etc. etc. It was a friend of mine that finally shook me out of my reverie by telling me," Life is forward motion. You can't fight it no matter what you do, so please please stop lamenting about what you can't change and just live your life!" Look back only when you can find something back there to help move you forward. Use your past as a tool for your future but don't remain stuck in it. Learn to enjoy, appreciate and accept every stage of your life for what it is and you will be a much happier and more well adjusted human being. Guaranteed.
2. Success consists of getting up one time more than you've fallen down.
Every time you fall down, you must get back up on your feet again no matter how difficult it is or how much you would rather remain fallen and beaten down by life circumstances. As a writer I submit my work to many markets all the time and very often my manuscripts are rejected. The reasons for the rejections vary. Regardless of the reasons it hurts all the same. Every time this happens I have to give myself a pep talk and remind myself that my work has value. It is an uphill battle most of the time but success cannot occur unless a person is on his/her feet and pressing forward to the finish line. As well the lessons you learn while you are down prove invaluable when you are up.
3. Start with peanuts.
Whenever I am feeling discouraged or have the sense that I am not accomplishing anything these three simple words are a reminder to me that everything in life first starts from something small and from there grows into something larger. Humble beginnings are what I call them. I have come to accept this as a part of the growing development that is my life.
4. Patience is a virtue that carries a lot of "wait."
It is so hard to be patient for anything in our fast paced world but it is all together necessary at the same time. Everything is not instantaneous, especially when we are waiting on answers or wanting things to change for the better. I have had to learn to slow down in my own sometimes harried lifestyle and languish in the quiet and calmness of the waiting period. Learning to un-clutter one's life and keep it simple goes a long way towards doing that.
5. Build wells of joy with the spade of sorrow.
Simply put, sometimes good things in our life come from painful and trying times. It takes months and sometimes years of toiling away at a task before one is able to reap any benefit at all. I believe that wisdom develops from the ability to humble oneself. With maturity I came to be able to humble myself, especially by watching the most significant woman in my life- my mother. My mother raised all three of her daughters as a single parent for many years. She had to make many sacrifices in her life for us girls. As well she sacrificed pursuing the goals in her own personal life in order to be the best mother she could be. Her sacrifices humble me greatly. Heartbreak, pain, tragedy and problems of every kind are part of what we all must face in our lifetime. Positive changes and hoped for results are very slow to come and this can cause even the most optimistic person to become downcast. Don't give up! There is sunshine up ahead. In the meantime, keep using that spade because the joy is within reach (it's just not visible yet- that's where faith comes in).