Sunday, December 31, 2006

How Babies Can Be A Nightmare

Babies are probably the best thing that couples could have and enjoy but at the same time they can be silly imps that can make the same life intolerable and hectic to the extent of resulting to a mental break down.

However, they are many ways of raising babies and making them the wonderful creatures they are supposed to be, but all this has to be started from the first few weeks of birth right up to the teenage age and if done properly they will take care of themselves pleasantly during their adulthood.

For starters, the initial stage is to show them plenty of love which includes a lot of cuddling and holding as well as speaking softly to them though they can't talk at this stage, it is a good foundation as it will make them learn to speak at an early age.

The greatest mistake parents make here is shouting at the baby when he or she starts irritating them with screams and other anti-social behavior like breaking everything that they can get hold of.

The golden rule with babies is not to let their actions work you up or annoy you and you should always have it in mind that the toddler cannot take responsibility for their actions how ever annoying or disgusting they may be during their early life.

If a toddler grabs fragile house hold goods and breaks them by smashing them on the floor, the best thing to do is to pick up the child tenderly and keep him or her away from the debris prior to cleaning up the mess before whispering in his or her ear that he has done something wrong and should not repeat it again. After doing all this you can wind up the whole exercise with a kiss on the cheek.

How ever, the most crucial stage is after their first year when their curiosity rises to astronomical levels accompanied with hyper behavior, which leaves a lot to be desired.
It is during this period that constant attention to the child is required and just by turning your back on the kid for a few seconds could be disastrous. It is also during this time that the child starts to pick a few words here and there.

Most toddlers are known to have poor feeding habits during this period and its not surprising to see a kid refuse food after swallowing only one or two spoons. The best way of dealing with this is by offering a diversion while he or she is eating like giving them unique or pleasant sounds or by singing a captivating tune which they will enjoy as they eat.

Another way of dealing with poor feeders is by identifying their favorite dish and serving it as frequently as possible and in the process making them enjoy eating early in life.

Another bad characteristic that kids can easily pick at this early stage is violent behavior which is often passed to kids by their parents. It is common sense that if a kid sees the parents constantly fighting, then he or she is bound to be also violent in future.

It is imperative that kids should never see their parents shouting at each other or physically fighting as this will tend to leave emotional scars that will haunt them in future or even turn them into misfits.

It has been proven through statistics that most of the violent criminals had disturbing childhoods where their parents were abusive to each other or to them. In most cases children brought up in abusive homes often suffer from insecurity and find it extremely difficult to sustain relationships.

Babies should also never be threatened if they err, as this is common among impatient parents who use threats as a short cut to disciplining their kids. For instance a child will often be told that if they do not finish their food, an ogre will appear from the horizon and take them away to some horrible place.

It is through such actions that parents instill fear into their children not knowing that this will affect them in future as they will feel very insecure as they grow up.

Raising babies lovingly is not a Herculean task and what is needed is plenty of patience and love. It will also help if you spend as much time with your toddler as possible as you set a firm foundation for their future.

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